For Parents

What Kids Learn From Reading At Every Age

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Now, more than ever, research is being conducted on how much learning kids do during the ages 0-5 years. If you aren’t up on all of it, this documentary discusses it well. Reading and stories are a wonderful way to engage them from the very beginning, with the benefits changing as your child learns and grows.

Jolie has a great article about how important telling stories to your kids are. I was especially focused on her tips for creating stories on the spot since I automatically reach for the bookshelf.

Reading that post got me thinking about how my three children, all under age 5, have interacted with stories and books during this critical time for absorbing information. Reflecting back, it has been fascinating to watch and observe their experience with stories as they have aged, and in hindsight pair it with developmental milestones.

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Newborns & Babies

As newborns, they are most focused on your voice, snuggling, and having you close by. They are content to listen to you talk.

Up until 6 months when most become mobile, you have their undivided attention for almost as long as you are willing to read to them - naps and eating aside. I picked any book I wanted and read as much as I wanted from it.

From 6 months to 18 months, they become more focused on motor skills. Interest in books takes on the role of “I can hold and carry this” and “let me turn the pages”. I rarely got past two pages in a book before they were up and finding a new one to carry and turn pages in. Board books and touchy-feely stories are perfect now.

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Toddlers

Somewhere in the 18-24month span, my kids were willing to sit and listen again. Books needed to be short, which lots of engaging pictures, but they would listen. I found myself reading full stories out loud again, and often on repeat of 5 times in a row. In the repetition they picked up new things each time. The predictability allowed them to absorb sentence structure, new words, grasp the story’s flow, and participate with “fill in the blank” opportunities if I pretended to forget a word.

From 34-36 months we started to read longer picture books from start to finish. On almost every library visit we return home and start reading. Typically, we end up reading through all the new books that same day. 

More recently, companies like Wonderbooks and Vox Books have designed an audio version of the story that is attached directly to the book for readers who want more than mom or dad can handle on a given day. Sold exclusively to libraries, they are a welcome update to the CD/Book idea.

 

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Preschoolers

At four years old, we started reading chapter books with pictures. It give us as parents a little more to invest into, and a new story to follow for several reading sessions. The amount of pictures in early chapter books vary, so be sure to pull it off the shelf and thumb through it first. Classics like “Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory” and “Matilda” are great places to start.

I’ll be curious to see what happens when my oldest has learned to read on his own. He already goes to bed with the light on and a book in hand to stare at the pictures once we leave the room.

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Independent Readers

I have not hit this stage with my children yet, but as an avid reader myself, I know the multitude of benefits reading has provided me. 

 

Vocabulary is probably the most obvious. I love the meme that says do not make fun of a person who mispronounces a word because that means they probably learned it through reading. This rings true to me more often than I’d like to admit because it means I mispronounce a lot of words.

Another benefit is using your imagination and being able to escape a situation. You can also relate to and learn from characters.

Non fiction books (fiction can too) teach you things without realizing the process is happening. Books are also great resources when you purposely want to learn about something.

Reading also helps you become a better writer as you internalize sentence structures, experience how authors weave a narrative, and understand different ways words work together.

 

Do You Love Books Too?

I love them so much that when I decided to pass along some tips I used while parenting three under age three for over a year, I chose the format of a book for the content. It makes a perfect gift to buy yourself or someone you love. As this reviewer states “I literally use these tips everyday. This is my new go to baby shower gift because of how helpful it is. Highly recommend!”.

Find my recently released book “15 Ways For New Moms To Manage Stress & Stay Sane: The Actually Useful New Mom Care Package” everywhere books are sold. 

I discuss 15 ways not commonly written about you can use daily to make life easier while on yourparenthood journey. Each tip will help you manage your mental stress and organize your day to make you a happier mom.

Written by a mom who had three kids under age three for over a year. Edited and influenced by first time moms who are past the first year. Made for moms who want to:

• Learn about ways to organize their day and manage their expectations.

• Discover how to tap into their local community, family, and friends for support.

• Minimize stress caused by four main money concerns by implementing provided strategies.

• Maximize their mommy/baby bond with four parenting frameworks.

Whether pregnant for the first time or home with your fifth newborn, it helps you get a handle on your stress levels, stay sane, and enjoy the everyday in every day, starting today!

Available on Amazon and for your favorite eReader.

Kelly Mager

Kelly Mager

Author Bio: Kelly enjoys most articles that depict aspects of raising children. However, she has often been disappointed in products advertised as helpful to new moms since they have rarely been helpful to her. This inspired her to connect parents with meaningful resources to make life easier, more organized, and better supported. A mother of three boys, a lover of reading, and armed with experience in operations improvement, she kicked off her mission with the publication of "15 Ways For New Moms To Manage Stress & Stay Sane: The Actually Useful New Mom Care Package". Learn more about her current projects on InstagramFacebookPinterest, and Etsy at MiniMischiefManaged. 

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Words of Healing

A pharmacy in Bishops Castle, England offers prescriptions on site, and the medicine seems to boost its patrons health, despite its out of the ordinary medicine. It prescribes poetry. Deborah Alma runs the “pharmacy,” as she believes poetry can help with a variety of heart and mental ailments. After listening to the troubles of her visitors, she prescribes a poem just for them. 

The idea that words can work healing is not new. Words of life spoken, repeated, sung, and believed make a big difference. In fact, it was recently discovered that words can actually change our DNA. 

Words of healing

“You are wonderful, Marzette. Absolutely wonderful.”

“You are wonderful, Marzette. Absolutely wonderful.”

I recently published the book “Marzette: You are Wonderful.” The story shows the impact of listening to the songs and whispers God has for us. When God speaks, there is life, hope, rebirth, renewal, redemption, and healing.

Derek Prince wrote a book called God’s Medicine Bottle. (You can read it here.) Prince talked about how God’s word is like a medicine, referring to the passage in Proverbs 4:20-22, which says, 

My son, give attention to my words;
Incline your ear to my sayings.
Do not let them depart from your eyes;
Keep them in the midst of your heart;
For they are life to those who find them,
And health to all their flesh.

He shared how he had a skin condition that no medication would respond to. He went to so many doctors, and finally he decided he would seek God for healing. He started reading God’s word regularly, believing, and confessing God’s goodness for him; and he was healed. 

Words that we believe have power. Words are not a spell we cast, but when we believe them, they affect our actions, thought life, our spirit, and in turn, our physical well being. 

Maybe there is an ailment that you are struggling with— a heartache or a physical pain. Find the words of life that speak to your situation, and begin rehearsing those words, and believing God’s heart for you. As we listen to what God says, and believe that it true, He builds our faith.

Jesus said “Let it be done according to your faith.” It’s not a matter of mustering up a enough faith to please God, as if we can earn the right to be healed. Rather faith is like a doorway. Our faith is an open door for God to have his way. When we have no faith, we lack the trust to let Him in. When we believe He is “the rewarder of those who seek Him,” then we are giving Him permission to do what He does— restore, refresh, and heal.

Below are some scriptures that might be helpful for you. God’s words for you are hope-filled, life-giving, and healing to your soul.

He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds. Psalms 147:3

Heal me Lord, and I will be healed; save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise. Jeremiah 17:14

Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones. Prov 3:7-8

You shall serve the Lord your God, and he will bless your bread and your water, and I will take sickness away from you. Ex. 23:25

You are Wonderful! Marzette- A Parable of Redemption

Marzette: You Are Wonderful is a story of unconditional love. Since I first started telling this story, I have seen many lives impacted by its message. Share the message forgiveness, identity, and redemption by helping bring this beautifully illustrated hardbound book to print.

I have always loved to dance.

I am an author, but I have always loved to dance. I was fascinated by the technique of portraying a human marionette. I spent hours in the studio with a shoe string and ballet barre, watching how my limbs responded to being pulled by a string.

Eventually I wanted to use the analogy of a marionette to perform a story with heart. 

After years of performing this story on stages across the world, I am excited to bring it to the page as a picture book that children can revisit day after day.

The Story

Marzette is a marionette fashioned by the Great Puppet Maker, and she can dance! Marzette desires the admiration of a prestigious audience. She, like you and me, wants the affirmation of others — the likes, followers, and reputation of someone important.

The Bad Guy 

The villain in the story embodies the lies we believe about ourselves. He is a slick, manipulative trickster. He tells Marzette she must perform to be adored. This story touches on a core issue in our culture— who controls me? What principles are guiding my decisions? This reflection is vital for us children today.

The Hero is Unconditional Love

Marzette is abused, misused, lied to, and rejected. Yet at her lowest point, she discovers that she was never forgotten, always loved, and still valued. She is still wonderful! This story shares the heart of God with your child: you are loved; you are wonderful.

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Interested in the book? Find it here.